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Do not do something because you think you’re supposed to, do it because you know it’s something you want to do. You only have one life, at least as far as we can tell. It’d be better spent doing something that fulfills you and helps others out, if possible.

This could range to career decisions like starting a podcast, taking a promotion, writing a book. It could have to do with becoming a parent. Or letting your parents tell you what you need to do with your life. It could be the narratives from your childhood movies telling you you have to be a Prince Charming and find a princess and that you’ll live happily ever after once you’ve found the right one. 

It could be the role you feel yourself pushed to take. Like, because you enjoy making videos you now have to be a community manager. Or if you like to paint you have to spend all day replying to comments to be a good person because to sell your art in the modern world you must build an audience and because of competition you have to act like everyone else acts.

It could be that you feel like you should believe in reality because everyone around you seems not to. Or the simmering resentment you feel towards the organizations that claim their purpose is to spread love but instead they spread tribalism and hate over an unprovable concept.

Just because everyone else choses to ignore reality because reality is so damn difficult doesn’t mean you have to. You can be you. You can read whatever you want to read, learn and do whatever you want to do. If you find yourself naturally drawn to a skill, craft, science, or anything that pushes you and you can’t really explain why, you owe it to yourself to try to do something with it. If it brings you joy and isn’t hurting anyone, why oughtn’t you continue working on what you enjoy working on?

What a great opportunity to practice ignoring the judgement of others.

And suppose you find that you want to do that thing you are supposed to do? Perhaps you have no choice in the matter but find you can endure and even appreciate it? Then carry on.

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