This is one that I have been thinking about a lot lately, it’s something that I use to suffer from myself (okay I still do on occasion), this insanely common action of living life as a victim when in most cases we are responsible for what happens to us and at the very least capable of deciding how you respond to stimuli. For instance, if someone is being annoying or trying to make you mad it is your choice how to respond, whether to get mad and let them effect your whole day or to shrug it off, remind yourself some people have issues and move on.
I get it, I’ve been there, when you’re in the groove of playing the victim it’s hard to see that you’re in control of your life. You feel like everyone is out to get you and that someone else is holding the strings that control your success. When you play this part you actually do give up your ability to control your life. When you play the victim you begin to put yourself into situations where you have no control over the outcome and when the outcome doesn’t turn out the way you hoped, you take it personally.
Stop doing this. Make a conscious effort to notice when you are putting yourself into situations you can’t control. For the most part the people who are in debt seem to blame the credit companies, and are intensely angry at them. The problem here is that for the most part they wouldn’t be in debt if they hadn’t asked to borrow money. This is something that bothers me to no end, people who complain about how the bank is out to get them. You didn’t need that new fancy tv/game system/car/etc. The old one worked just fine, the new one does the same thing, only now you’re stuck with it until you pay it off and once you do there will be something better out there tempting you.
If you can learn to simply separate wants from needs and look at the big, long term picture, you’re life will start to straighten out. You will weigh what you want in the moment against that really cool thing you could get sooner, albeit down the road, if you hold off on buying something pointless (like fast food, please don’t put yourself into debt over fast food, that’s stupid.)
I’m going to get off my rant for now, but I will be back with more about this. This is a rule to live by that I’m still learning and beating into my own head. The more I write about it the better I will get at it. Taking control of my finances is how I am taking back control of my life so I can stop playing the part of the victim.
So tell me, what have you done lately to take back control of your life? Leave your response in the comments below.